Emptiness
Uncategorized February 26th, 2018I’m determined not to make this blog about my grief…this was Zato’s journey. I am going to cut myself some slack for a while, though. I picked up his ashes today. I got some lovely cards from friends saying how sorry they are. I got a letter from his oncologist saying they had made a donation to FETCH a Cure in his memory. I got an e-mail from Dr. Loops with his condolences along with a poem I really liked. I feel that people truly care – people here, people he knew.
Yet, I feel like I am moving through deep water. Trudging my way through the heaviness of getting through the day. How can I feel so empty and so full of pain at the same time?
The box for his ashes isn’t here yet. I opened the box from the vet and broke down even more when I saw they had made a paw print impression for us. I didn’t know they would do that.
I miss you buddy, and it’s getting worse every day. I’m trying really hard, because I know you’d never want us to be sad. And I am going to celebrate your life as soon as the hemorrhaging stops. It has to stop soon. There can’t be much of it (and me) left.
I love you so much.
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February 26th, 2018 at 9:08 pm
This is so hard, Tracy, and my heart goes out to you. Zato clearly touched so many people in a profound and meaningful way, and I am so pleased that they are showing you the impact he had and how much he mattered to them. That paw print is such a kind and thoughtful gesture and such a precious treasure for you to keep.
I recognise the feelings you describe and I wish I could give you a massive hug. You are in my thoughts.
Sending love,
Meg and Clare ❤️
March 13th, 2018 at 10:56 pm
I don’t see where I answered you, Clare, but my brain has been so foggy and slooowwww! Thank you with all my heart.
February 27th, 2018 at 4:32 am
I love your analogy to water, I can so relate to that feeling of not being able to come up for air.
There is no shame in getting knocked down as the waves of grieve wash over. Remember that the grace is in gathering your strength to stand back up.
This is the time to grieve, and nobody can prescribe the “right” amount of time allotted for tears. Just don’t forget to breathe and take each minute as it comes.
February 27th, 2018 at 9:58 pm
Thank you :). It means so much to me.
February 27th, 2018 at 4:52 am
Of course you feel this way, you loved him with all your heart. Th grieving process is exhausting but necessary for us to heal from such great loss. You will get there soon, and on your own time. Take things day by day and cut yourself LOTS Of slack because you deserve it.
Zato touched a lot of people, and will continue to do so. His spirit will always be strong, and may that strength help mend your heart in time.
P.S. Of course this blog can be about your grief, it’s OK so if it helps you to vent, then do it OK?
March 13th, 2018 at 10:44 pm
I will and I truly am grateful for everyone’s support.
February 27th, 2018 at 7:56 pm
I agree, take the time you need. You loved him a ton and it hurts to lose them. Blogging most definitely helped me. I also made a scrapbook. Everyone grieves differently, there is no right or wrong, no time limit. Don’t let anyone tell you there is. You will get there, I promise, it just takes awhile. I still remember clutching Ty’s wooden box of ashes and just sobbing so uncontrollably. Eventually, I was able to sort through my emotions and begin to post funny stories about him. He was one of a kind! Keep blogging whatever you need to to help. I found so much support here! ❤️LORI, Angel Ty and the gang
March 13th, 2018 at 10:43 pm
I love your scrapbook idea!
February 27th, 2018 at 9:55 pm
Thank you all – you’re angels!!
March 2nd, 2018 at 2:19 am
Keep blogging. We all understand the grief. I don’t post much on Sassy’s and I use it for my other 3 right now. But I have never forgotten her and many other’s h aven’t either. It takes a long time. No one can say when the grief won’t hurt and its really ok to cry. 🙂
xoxoxox
Michelle & Angel Sassy
March 13th, 2018 at 10:42 pm
I know you understand and I really appreciate it.