Dear Zato,
Uncategorized February 23rd, 2018I’m having a really bad morning. Can you please come back? I went to sleep crying, what little bit I slept, and I woke up crying. The house is so empty…even with the other dogs. Your absence is deafening. I have spent the last year and a half taking care of you. Now I have all these supplements and pills and homeopathic vials of remedies and I just stare at them and can’t throw them away. I start to make your baked chicken and veggies and then stop. I leave the house and leave the tv on because I always left it on for you, even though I never saw you watch it. When I’m out, I don’t want to come home, so I can pretend a little longer that you’re there. I drive around with your collar, even though you seldom wore it.
If we could just sit together and I could put my arm around your strong shoulders for a few minutes, I might be able to get through this rainy day. You should see me doing all these things to try and survive. One of this week’s projects is filling the many potholes on our gravel lane. You should see me, crying and lugging these heavy bags of gravel around. I didn’t even realize until today the symbolism of what I was doing. I cried even more, realizing that Lowe’s doesn’t sell enough bags of stuff to fill the huge hole that I have in me right now.
I miss our cuddles in the morning. I’d stop, and then you’d nudge me to keep touching you. First with both legs, and then with the one after you got sick. And that tail never stopped wagging.
I wouldn’t have you back here sick, but healthy and whole. We could have the best day, hiking in the woods if the rain stopped, or just curled up watching a movie. We could do all things we used to do. I’d even let you chase the deer and pee on the bushes. Anything.
I love you.
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February 23rd, 2018 at 4:27 pm
You are describing me pretty much. Manni died on December 10 and I still have those days. Small tasks all of a sudden bring it all back, a certain route I take brings back pictures and I just break down. I am at the point now where the crispness of the memories starts to fade and I hate it. I want my dog back. I don’t want to forget his scent, the actual texture of his fur, the way it felt holding him.
Here’s to both of us coping better, to never forgetting a thing and to the best dogs there ever were. Hugs
Tina
February 23rd, 2018 at 5:06 pm
Thank you, Tina. I followed Manni’s story and I don’t even know if I commented. My brain is so foggy today. I loved his videos and cried when you lost him. Especially the pictures of you at the beach with and without him. I hope that we can both find some peace soon.
Manni was so beautiful! I have never seen a more glorious tail! And he was so cute as a baby. You could just see the goodness of his heart throughout his life.
I really appreciate you thinking of me and I will certainly be thinking of you and hoping we get some relief.
Tracy
February 23rd, 2018 at 5:35 pm
I’m so glad you are continuing to share your feelings, as well as the wonderful snippets of Zato and his “specialness”.
As Tina said, certain memories will pop back in your head and the hurt of missing our puls starts all over again. I can tell you, five years later, I still have waves of grief hit me out of the blue. I can also tell you that the happy memories and that feeling her presence “out of the blue” also
happens almost daily!
For now, just try and get through one minute at a time. I kept EVERYTHW of Happy Hannah’s and didn’t throw anything away. It’s individual…some throw things away…some don’t. Whatever feels right for you is right!
The break in routine after all the care giving just sucks. It’s a vpid that no one could understand unless you’ve been on this journey. I would rush home for weeks to get home to “take care of Happy Hannah”, only to walk into the void, into the grief.
For whatever’s it’s worth, you aren’t going crazy! You are just devastated and gutted….for now.
One thing that helped me get from one moment to the next sometimes was KNOWING Happy Hannah woukd NOT want to see me so sad. I woukd FORCE myself to think of a happy memory so she wouldn’t “see” me cry. I needed her to knkw that I understood she needed to free herself of her failing earthly body before a crisis. That’s what Zato needs to know.
BTW. Zato certainly enjoyed his morning cuddles! SOOOO CUTE!!! Everything about Zato is cute!!
Stay connected. We get it. And we ALWAYS love hearing about anything and everything ZATO!!
Lots of love
Sally and Alumni Happy Hannah and Merry Myrtle and Frankie too!
February 23rd, 2018 at 5:36 pm
PS perfect song
February 23rd, 2018 at 5:36 pm
Been there, done that….it’s been 7 months since we said good-bye to our warrior Nitro. Time does lessen the grief, but it is still there. I made a video tribute to his life, and I cry every time I watch it. We had over 3 years with him after his amp, 3 years of intense-ness as we traveled that journey with him. The void when he left was unbearable, too much time on my hands where I didn’t have to remember meds, stress about his decreasing mobility, his waning appetite. Old age took him from us, and no one outruns old age. He took a huge part of me with him. Wishing you peace as you get through, and eventually past, the grief. I know it doesn’t seem like you will right now.
Paula and Warrior Angel Nitro
February 24th, 2018 at 4:35 pm
This. Everyday this. I lost Samdog 5.5 years ago, just today I cleaned out the medication drawer full of medicine he never had the chance to take. The Tripawds necklace I wore during our battle for him, still hangs on my rear view mirror.
I miss him everyday, still.
I cry for my loneliness without my best friend, still.
What I can tell you is that the hole is always there, but I find that it is more of a portal now. When I look into it, I see his smile, and I can smile. I remember his antics, and I can laugh. I feel his intensity, and I know our love continues to be real. My tears honor our love, and that is okay. But so do my smiles and laughs as I remember our love.
I won’t say it gets easier, but I will say the weight is easier to bear.
February 25th, 2018 at 2:38 pm
I’m so sorry you lost your Samdog. I really like your idea of looking through the hole as a portal. Right now, I’m just falling through it into the pit of grief, but I hope one day I can look and see Zato’s smile, too.
Thank you for thinking of me and I will be thinking of you, too and wishing you peace.
February 25th, 2018 at 4:18 am
It’s been just over 8 months since we lost our warrior Murphy, and a month since we lost our Cassie … 2 so close together. Some days the pain is overwhelming. I talk about them both whenever I can. How brave & strong Murphy was…how sweet & loving Cassie was ..I share their stories with strangers, I think that helps to keep them close. I sometimes cry, but I try to find reasons to smile. I donate to causes in their names.
Hugs to you,
Donna
February 25th, 2018 at 2:41 pm
Thank you, Donna. I’m sorry about Murph and Cassie. I know they were special. Even talking about them to others, it’s hard to convey just how special they were. All we can do is try, right?
I will be wishing us both some relief.